by Trigena Halley | Apr 13, 2017 | Communication
Originally published by Melanie Kennedy on KUTV News Salt Lake City — (KUTV) Life Coach Trigena Halley from Peak Performance CCT, LLC visited Fresh Living to discuss the Teenage Brain. I sit and write this article surrounded by my own four teenagers (ranging in age from 13-17) and a group of their friends chattering and having fun. Unlike many, I think the teen years are my favorite so far, I see most teens as super sharp thinkers, with unlimited potential and opinions. In some ways, for me as a mom, the teen years seem way more manageable than the younger years. So I guess it is not shocking in my study of neuroscience and its impact on leadership and behavior I gravitated to the study of neuroscience and the teenage brain. My stage in life with my family and the fact the teen years intrigue me has led me to some interesting findings. Most of us think alien beings have taken over our kids when they reach the teen years! According to Dr. Jensen, professor of neurology and the chair of the neurology department at the Perelman School of Medicine, University of Pennsylvania our teenagers have NOT been taken over by aliens. Although, if you are a parent of one or more teenagers, your vantage point at times may look very different! When it comes to our teenagers, what we often think of, as “alien”, is actually lack of normal brain development. In Dr. Jensen’s book, The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Gide to Raising Adolescents, she describes the central paradox about teen brains - the teen brain offers major...
by asenath | Aug 17, 2016 | Communication, News
Originally published by Melanie Kennedy on KUTV. Salt Lake City — (KUTV) Life Coach Trigena Halley visited Fresh Living to discuss how we all take in information. Are you a sensor or an intuitive? Taking in Information – Sensing and Intuition! When we think about taking in information, we tend to think in terms of gathering information, disseminating information and the process of sifting through information. An important factor for the flow of information is how we take in and what we consider as it relates to information. For instance, do you see information more literally and through your five senses – see, touch, smell, taste, hear - or do you look for patterns and connections and use more of a “gut feel” and theoretical approach as you consider information. According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) - one of the most widely used personality assessments in the world - there are two ways in which we take in information – as a Sensor or an Intuitive. According to the MBTI, individuals who take in information and look for what is real and tangible, are observant about specifics and are interested in practical realities of the situation are Sensors. Intuitives, on the other hand, take in information and look for the big picture, consider the relationships and connections between the facts and are especially interested in seeing possibilities. Sensors and Intuitives can gather and synthesize information similarly – the difference is what they perceive in the information. For Sensors, key words are facts, specifics and details. When working with information, they value experience, the practical application of the information...
by asenath | Jun 15, 2016 | Communication, News
Originally published by Melanie Kennedy on KUTV. Are you a judger or a perceiver? These are two personality types that communicate differently. Life coach Trigena Halley joined Fresh Living to explain how these different personality types can affect how we communicate with others. When most of us think about working together effectively we think about how we communicate, how we show empathy, how we collaborate and how we handle conflict. Very rarely do we consider the impact that “structure” has on our relationships and our ability to work together effectively. According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) - one of the most widely used personality assessments in the world - there are two ways in which we structure our world - as a Judger or a Perceiver. When most of us hear Judger and Perceiver we generally think of the common following definitions: Judger - judgmental of others Perceiver - how we perceive the world around us According to the MBTI, when it comes to our personality we have different definitions of Judger and Perceiver. Individuals who structure their world in an orderly fashion, make a plan and work the plan, like to make decisions, come to closure, and move on are likely to be Judgers. Perceiver’s, on the other hand, are defined by their ability to adapt quickly, turn on a dime, leave their options open and seek out more data in situations. Judgers and Perceivers both have of structure - the difference is how they operationalize that structure. For Perceivers, the key word is flexibility - an 8:00am appointment means showing up between 8:00-8:15am - time is...
by asenath | Jun 15, 2016 | Communication, Leadership, News
Are you a judger or a perceiver? These are two personality types that communicate differently. Coach Trigena Halley joined Fresh Living to explain how these different personality types can affect how we communicate with others. When most of us think about working together effectively we think about how we communicate, how we show empathy, how we collaborate and how we handle conflict. Very rarely do we consider the impact that “structure” has on our relationships and our ability to work together effectively. According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) - one of the most widely used personality assessments in the world - there are two ways in which we structure our world - as a Judger or a Perceiver. When most of us hear Judger and Perceiver we generally think of the common following definitions: Judger - judgmental of others Perceiver - how we perceive the world around us According to the MBTI, when it comes to our personality we have different definitions of Judger and Perceiver. Individuals who structure their world in an orderly fashion, make a plan and work the plan, like to make decisions, come to closure, and move on are likely to be Judgers. Perceiver’s, on the other hand, are defined by their ability to adapt quickly, turn on a dime, leave their options open and seek out more data in situations. Judgers and Perceivers both have of structure - the difference is how they operationalize that structure. For Perceivers, the key word is flexibility - an 8:00am appointment means showing up between 8:00-8:15am - time is flexible and more information and data is always...
by Trigena Halley | Apr 21, 2016 | Communication
Coach Trigena Halley visited Fresh Living to discuss The Optimistic Opportunity: How Our Thoughts Shape Our Behavior. I love Henry Ford’s quote “Whether you think you can or you think you can’teither way, you are right”, it sums up so well the power our thinking has to our well-being. How we think has powerful ramifications to how we show up in relationships, as parents, as spouses and as leaders, and, how healthy we are physically and emotionally. At a more micro level it has to do with our perspective on Optimism. What is Optimism and Why is it Important? According to the Multi-Health Systems (MHS) Emotional Intelligence model Optimism is an emotional intelligence skill. We don’t usually think of optimism as a skill much less a survival skill. Consider individuals who are survivors - cancer, war, wilderness, etc. - and you will find a common thread of optimism. Think about every day decisions, goals and events in your life, you generally have two ways to respond, you can: Resist the situation Support the situation The first option is pessimism, where you see the situation as incompatible. The fear is usually if the situation changes, the effect will be unpredictable and most likely “bad”. The second option is optimism; you see the situation as an opportunity that will have a positive effect on your situation. With optimism you are willing to explore the situation, even if you don’t understand it. According to the article Why Optimism is the Ultimate Survival Skill there is a scale of beliefs as it relates to optimism. Cynicism - “Everything is bad, doomed, and untrustworthy.”...
by Trigena Halley | Mar 24, 2016 | Communication, News, Resiliency
Giving feedback is one of the most common things we do as parents, spouses and co-workers. When feedback is done well it leads to increased satisfaction, performance and motivation, when not done well it can cause conflict, stress and confusion. As parents one of the best things we can do for our children is to provide both motivational and developmental feedback that contributes to their success. There are typically two forms of feedback - motivational and developmental. Motivational feedback identifies what was done well and why it was important - the individual receiving the feedback understands the positive impact and how to replicate the behavior or action in the future. Developmental feedback identifies what needs to be improved or changed and why that change is necessary. Giving feedback can either be a distributing or contributing process. Distributing feedback is a one-way communication process whereby on person provides their viewpoint while contributing feedback is where a discussion occurs and both parties provide input. Two questions to consider as we give feedback: Am I doing it effectively so behavior can be replicated or changed? Is my feedback distributing (telling) or contributing (designed to impact behavior)? A good feedback model is the STAR approach: S/T (Situation or Task) - Situation or Task - the behavior, action or task. A (Action) - the action taken or not taken R (Result) - the result of the action taken or not taken Emotional vocabulary also gets us in trouble when we give feedback - these are words such as always, never, everybody and nobody. These allness words tend to over exaggerate and cause the other...
